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your significant other are either looking to add D/s dynamics to your
relationship, or are in the need of a jump start to revitalize the D/s in
your relationship. How do you approach this subject? What are you going to
say? What are you hoping to achieve? The following process encourages
controlled, open conversation. It can be used by anyone interested in any
aspect of D/s, not just service-oriented partners (which is my personal
preference, as you may be aware). There are three basic steps to creating or recreating successful D/s relationships:
Clearing the Slate: The key to a successful 24/7 D/s relationship is divorcing yourselves of your prior conceptions of female dominance. Every person carries some baggage regarding D/s. Certain types of images are immediately conjured up when you discuss it. The submissive male may have fantasy-style images of what a dominant woman is / does, etc. His partner has images as well. In some cases they may be what's kept her away from this type of activity all her life. When two people fall in love, the love they experience is different than anyone else's in the world. The unique combination of personalities and experiences make up a unique bond which works for them. To try to force a particular 'style' of love on a relationship is usually a recipe for unhappiness and dissatisfaction. They need to experience it together, compromise for each other, and reach a common experience which is uniquely theirs. The same is true for D/s. If you try to force a particular style of D/s activity into your relationship, one or both of you will likely be unsatisfied. So you need to define your own individual approach together. For more on Starting (or Jump Starting) Your D/s Relationship - order "Uniquely Rika" today!
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