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As I have written in other articles, if I'm feeling good about a sub, I like to give him a treat (often fantasy fulfillment or scene-based activities - see my articles on these subjects). Sometimes this entails prolonged scenes with complex predicaments, however, treats can also be quick, simple gifts which are easy to give and leave a lasting impression. The subliminal messages all treats deliver to a sub are: I recognize and appreciate that you're working hard to please me I'm going to give you something I know you like but are not demanding or expecting I'm in total control and can give or take away I'm thinking about our roles right now* *Dommes - myself included - sometimes forget how important that last message is to a sub. While we expect the sub to be focused on our needs, we also know it's not submission if their efforts are not received from a position of dominance. While we expect the sub to demonstrate the self discipline required to carry out their submissive activities without requiring the need for sub-centric acts on our part, a little demonstration of power goes a long way to make his job easier. The less sense a treat makes, the more effective it will be. These are not acts of dominance (see my other articles), these are sub-centric activities. They are "simple gifts". While we don't want to get into the habit of providing these gifts (unpredictablility is key), they are very effective ways to let a sub know you love him and understand him. Used wisely, they will maintain an edge in your relationships and besides, they're fun! Love, - Rika. For more information on Simple Gifts - order "Uniquely Rika" today!

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