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- Playtime The use of a chastity device triggers all of the male-centric, 'do me while I'm helpless' sensations. I therefore put them in the category of Treats and Playtime. Personally, I do not use a device to enforce chastity directly, nor do I expect better performance from my submissives due to their usage. However, there are effects the devices have on a man which can be utilized to heighten our mutual enjoyment of playtime. Additional Physical Control There are features of chastity devices, which introduce elements of control beyond mental discipline. For one, most chastity devices physically limit the amount of erection a man is able to have. Men have described the sensation of not being able to get fully erect as "Maddening"...I like to hear that word! Some devices prevent any touching of the penis or scrotum at all. Most devices force the man to urinate sitting down, again limiting their freedom outside the D/s relationship. Men also have mentioned the 'continual reminder' effect of having the device facilitate their partner's physical controlling of their genitals, even when they're apart. Tease, Tease, and Then, Tease Some More - It's all in fun From the moment the device goes onto the man to the moment I take it off, my goal is to make him feel the effects of the device...deeply. It starts right from the click of the lock. Law enforcement officers will tell you, the most dangerous moment, when apprehending a criminal, is between the application of the first and second handcuff. There is no denying that there is a strong mental impact on a man when the lock clicks and he knows there is no turning back. It's the same with a chastity device. No matter how much self-discipline the sub has mastered, the physical reality of a device will shock his system. So use this moment to gently enforce his vulnerability. I make sure the lock makes a nice loud click, I pat the device once it's closed, squeeze his balls a little (depending on the device and whether or not I can touch them). I'll say something cute like, "there now...no more erections for you...", or , "No telling HOW long we'll keep it on this time". Sometimes, I'll have him kneel deeply with his hands behind his back, then put my foot under the device and tap it from the bottom with my toes while lightly slapping his face from side to side while he thanks me for using the device. Always playful, but always playing on the impact of the moment. Often my next step will be for me. I'll have him give me a long massage, prepare a bath for me, and brush my hair. I know the device-limited erection he initially has will eventually subside during these kinds of activities and that's ok, the objective for me is to repeatedly ride him up and down the excitement curve. Over the period of time he spends in the device (my longest playtime with my hubby in a device without a break was a little shy of 3 weeks), I will play with his fantasies and fetishes. I will bring his erection in contact with its' confinement over and over again. For my hubby that means repeated contact with the smell of leather, my feet, my shoes, and me! :) Many women don't realize the power of words - both the ones that you say and those which the submissive says. Enjoy teasing him verbally; mock his situation. Make sure he thanks you for giving him this treat. Make sure he suggests ways in which you can frustrate him more! :) Tapping the device is always very effective...in many cases, it's the only stimulation he may be able to get! WARNING: Don't Lose Sight Of True Submission This has the danger of becoming a 3 week long 'session'. Remember, it's playtime and it's a treat (which lasts longer than what you might normally give a sub). DO NOT lose site of what it really is. It's additional work for you. If, during the course of the time he spends in the device, you don't feel up to teasing him, DON'T! His responsibilities as a submissive are not on hold during this time either. He is still required to strive to anticipate your needs and make your life easier. Just because you're treating him doesn't mean he shouldn't be a good submissive. If you feel he has strayed from his vows of submission or is trying to goad you into teasing him when you don't want to, take the device off of him and playtime is over. (see the Power of Irony) Sometimes, when he retains the correct intent, you may start to feel that he is equating his submission to the device and placing too much importance on it. If this happens, don't worry about it. Let him enjoy his fantasy. It will end when you choose and he will be right back better than ever. Summary Without question, you can control the sexuality of your submissive without the use of a chastity device. In fact, it is better for your sub to learn the self-discipline required long before he wears a chastity device. However, for playtime, treats and just plain old fun, there are few things which beat the pleasure repeated cyclical tormenting and teasing of a man in a chastity device can provide! I have used both the Tollyboy style and, recently, the CB-2000 devices on my subs. If you'd like to share your experiences or inquire about mine, feel free to email me at the address below. For more information on Chastity Devices, check out these web sites: Altairboy -- The foremost authority! CB-2000 -- I'm still working with this device and will report more as my experience increases. Love, - Rika
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